from [H]ardOCP, I just wanted to tell you Brian, keep your faith. Faith in yourself, in your wife, in your family. It may not be like it once was, but it certainly can be just as good, if not better. My heart goes out to you, and your family. Don't be afraid to talk to someone, even if you think it is just babbling. Talking will help get you through the tough times... sometimes yelling and screaming too. And for those days when you are really feeling down or just bad, do me this favor. gather up all the kids, let them circle around you and give one giant group hug. Kids understand the need for love more than anyone else does. All who have posted here give you 100% support, and if there is something we can do, just name it. I wish you and your family the best of times to come, be patient, pray and be in the best spirits you can be.

many prayers to your family,

Scott

This must be a very sad/confusing event to you.
I hope your wife will be ok. My prayers are with her. :)

Brian...congrats on the new baby, and most of all, our best wishes are with your wife...we're all pushing for her recovery 100%!!

Good luck bro...

Hey there.. just saw the linky from Overclockers.com

congrats on the new addition to the family. give the little on a hug from NZ. :D

As for Heather, my thoughts and prayers are with her. She is young and will recover. Have faith. I'm a doc and I know docs are always pessimistic (its called not giving false hope) and are sometimes pretty horrible when they give prognosis. Things change.

Take care of yourself first ok. If you need anything, give a shout.

Cheers bro.

wow, talk about an overwhelming response! brian, I just wanted to chime in and say that i'm praying for you and your family. thanks for the good advice about living wills and whatnot, just take things one day at a time. God bless.

Prayers are with you
 

Linked in via xtremesystems and over-clock.co.uk, your plight has touched my heart and i would like to offer my prayers for you and your family. Hope improvements come quick and fast.

Prayer from all of us in the uk, keep the faith!

I'm really shocked at what happened, and I have said a prayer and I hope everything turns out well.

I hope that God has mercy on this woman and give her the ability to make it through this. He has the power. I just pray that he will care, for this one person, in a multitude of billions. Yes I realize there are many others going through even worse, far worse, in fact, but God's power is infinite. And it is written that those who call out the name of the Lord in reverence and need and worship, he will thus listen. So I pray that he will work a miracle and allow everything to be fine.

I linked from OC (also a forum member there).

1st of all congrats on the baby. Im the 1st of 4 in my family, lol.

Im really sorry to hear about your wife. I will keep her and your family in my prayers. Keep strong and take care of yourself.

I'm from Overclockers Australia... Me and many others here are wishing you and your wife the best. Hope all turns out well mate.

I, along with one or two other names i recognized, am from GruntvillE, and wanted you to know that several of us have started a thread over there with more well wishes and prayers.

And congratulations on the new child, she is adorable. Hang in there and take care of yourself and the kids so that when Heather does recover, she has a clean house to come home to and no diaper rash!

And remember, there are lots of people out there praying for you guys.

Hello there
 

Hi there Brian, my name is DJ Sumanik, im from the yukon in canada (its next to alaska) and as hard as it is for you to believe I know what you are going through right now as I have lived it first hand.

My sister and I were in a bad car wreck and she suffered the same injury as your wife. She slipped into a coma shortly after for 8 days and when she came out she had lost all memory prior to the accident, speech capability, movement, and I know exactly what you mean by "no one being there". Those memories still frighten me to this day. It was a birth defect in her brain and the accident set it off, the blood vessel burst and the doctors said it would have likely occured to her even if we hadnt been in the accident, such as during childbirth, or any other sort of heavy traumatic shock or physical strain... So you are VERY right to be thankful it happened while she was in the hospital, as it could have happened while she was having a stressful day driving down the freeway with your kids in the car...

And dont necessarily believe this was from improper medication form the getgo, although all that stuff is pretty much irrellevant right now anyways. Stop asking why, and start looking at every availiable option in front of you to rectify the situation.

That all being said I want you to know my sister has made an EXCELLENT recovery considering the serious nature of this injury. We were on a highway in the middle of nowhere when it occured, and she went through the windshield to boot. I think if we had been closer to the hospital a full recovery likely would have been possible. Her right arm is still paralyzed, and she has some problems with memory, but other than that she is a very normal beautiful girl who is currently attending university and living with a great guy (one i finally approve of anyways) to become a special needs teacher to help people with disabilities like her own.

Being at her side is the best thing you can do for her because if she is going to be suffering any memory loss, having a familiar face like yours around when she first comes through can help jog those severed connections. To this day the only thing my sister can remember before the accident was me and her eating chocolates on easter, and i was the first face she saw when she came out of the coma.

Just have faith and dont let your hope slip away, my sister is living proof that an injury like this is NOT insurmountable.

i am not much of a person to truly follow any faith or religion completely and honestly, but if there is a god, or i higher power I can ask to grant you and your whole family to come out of this OK, i will.

If you set up a paypal account ill gladly donate what i can to help you with bills and food for your children, take care.

Brian my prayers will be for you and your family. Please let us know how we can help you out.

~Bender

from 2cpu.com here... We are all wishing you the best and are praying for your wife...

Set up a paypal account, I am sure we can all throw what we can in.

sorry had not been following this thread...

Congrats on the new baby and sorry to hear about your wife.

My son is 5 months old... and my mother, who is 70yrs old, had 2 strokes within the last few years ... She is not able to talk in full sentences and walk... but she's able to say a few words...
so I can say, have a pretty good idea about what you're going through right now... Your wife's young, and she's got all the good reasons to recover... 3 kids, a beautiful new born and a good husband... so I'm sure she's going to be just fine...

Brian, please feel free to let me know if there's anything I can do...

and I think a paypal account is a great idea too...

Bruce

Best Wishes
 

Jumped in from HardOCP.

My heart goes out to you. I don't know what I would have done if I was in your situation when my wife gave birth to my son. So much joy yet sorrow.

Please keep the faith. You have many people that you have never met before that are praying for you and your family. Be strong, not only for your wife but for your little ones. Let the strength of others hold you up.

Thoughts and prayers from my family to yours.

Good luck.

I jumped over from 2CPU where I saw this story. I'm not the praying type, but my heart goes out to you and your family. My hope for a very speedy recovery! Congrats on the new addition!

I am hoping the best for your wife, hope she will make a full recovery. And best wishes to your new daughter.

Hey Brian,

I said a prayer for your wife tonight. I truly hope she will be able to make a full recovery.

Best wishes to you, your wife, and the rest of the family.

Jim Decker
aka SOShootME

Prayer is not a one shot deal. True prayer is praying with out ceasing. May God bless all of you who are praying for Brian, Heather and their family.

Brian,

Its been a long time since I have been here; maybe too long....

I heard about your blessing and your misfortunes from OC.com and had to come back and give you my best wishes and hopes that your wife will recover fully.

I too am wanting to contribute to the paypal account so I hope that gets up and running soon...

I havent been praying lately myself but I think it is about time that I start again.

Best wishes to you and your family and do ever give up hope!

Jtroutman

Hey Brian,
Sorry to hear about your wife. I understand what you are going through. I nearly lost my son (11 yr old) in November. Spent 11 days in ICU with him in a strange city over 800 miles from home. It seems like the rest of the world is completely oblivious to your pain when this type of thing happens. Its quite surreal when you see the rest of the world going about its normal business when your world is crashing around you. To me it felt like living the "Matrix" in real life. Like I was the only one awake and everyone else was under its spell. No one can understand this kind of feeling until it happens to them. My son pulled through and is home now, though his condition will soon take his life. He is a trooper and a real computer geek. He plays games on his rig every day. Computers are his only joy anymore. Take care of yourself and your family. We are all here to help. This is a connected community and we can pull all kinds of strings to help those in distress. I hope and pray for you and yours.

Brian, my heart goes out to you and your family. Like you said, don't do harm to yourself, or you will be no good to those who also need you, namely your kids. Please set up a paypal account if you don't have one already, those of us in the community who can I'm sure will help.

My heart goes out to you and your family Brian. Your Daughter is Beautiful.

I'm from NY, I heard about this from DriverHeaven. I hope everyhting works out for you and your family. We are all praying for a fast recovery. God bless.

Hi Brian, i'm coming from Driverheaven, you and your wife are in my prayers, best wishes for your family.

Hey Brian, I'm from Overclockers.com. They posted a link to this thread. Man I am so happy for you on your daughter, and I am so sorry about your wife. My prayers are with you man. Stay strong for your wife and kids, all are prayers are with you.

Hi Brian,

I don’t usually join forums, I don’t usually have the time to keep up with them, but I had to join when I saw your story.

To give you a little hope. I recently watched a program on Discover channel that had a segment with a woman who was a brain specialist at (if I remember right) Harvard Medical. She had a stroke, left hemisphere, and it took her nearly two hours to dial the phone to call her work for help. She said knew what was happening to her but some things, like dialing the phone, didn’t make sense to her. She couldn’t figure out what to do with the numbers. To make a long story short, she made an excellent recovery. They interviewed her and if you just met here on the street you would never know she had a stroke. The brain is an amazing thing, if connections are broken, it starts trying to rebuild those connection and bypass the damaged parts. The right half of her brain eventually took over the functions that were lost in the Left half. That’s not to say there weren’t consequences. She no longer practices medicine, her interests and talents now lie in the artistic side. She makes beautiful pictures of the brain in stained glass. She says her personality has changed some, she is much more artistic and less logical and regimented than she used to be. It was incredible to see her. She was obviously still very intelligent, and was very articulate. It was very interesting and can hopefully give you some hope of a recovery. If anyone can find a way to get it to you, or maybe you could find a transcript or something online the show was the series: Understanding, and was about the human brain.

Your wife has several things going for her.
1. She’s young, the connections are easier to rebuild in young people.
2. She’s female (women naturally use their brains more evenly on the two sides than men, so one side can more easily take up the slack if something goes wrong with the other.
3. She has a loving Husband and Family.
4. She has a new baby she wants to get to know.
5. The fact that she is already talking in complete sentences is a good sign.

Even if she can’t speak or doesn’t seem fully aware of what is going on, she may very well be fully aware, but be unable to express herself normally. Keep talking to her. Talk to her about the good times, funny stories about the kids, things you did when you were dating. Stimulate her brain to start making those new connections, and re-connect to the tings that weren’t damaged but were cut off when the cells around them were damaged. Don’t give up! If you have a bunch of home movies, show those to her, whatever you have to do to get the information flowing again.

Good luck,

You are in my thoughts… (why else would I be writing this at 5:00am)

Linked from HardOCP.

My father suffered two strokes inside of 24 hours, so I understand, somewhat, what you are going through. I do hope whatever Gods are listening give you and your own strength through this ordeal, the courage needed to go on, and will to see all this through.

As has already been stated, if you need anything, let us know. Setup a Paypal account and I'm sure most of us, including me, would donate.

Keep the faith and walk the path my friend.

You guys are amazing! I didn't think it would keep on going, but I'm really encouraged by all your prayers and posts. Thank you!

For all those who have said they would like to donate... I don't know what to say. I'm not trying to post to get money from people (that's not why I share with you all), but I certainly won't turn away any help. So, if Joe, pHaestus, or someone else posts something or sets something up.... that will satisfy my ethics. I never wanted to try to use this horrible event to "get something" from the community. Thanks to those of you who have snuck around and found out my paypal already! I have already gotten an idea from the doctors and insurance company that the bills are going to be fairly large, and it helps.

Brian

I found the link to this thread from 3DGameMan, although I am a registered member here.

My deep thoughts and prayers go out to your wife. I pray to dear God that she will make a speedy full recovery...

I would happily make a donation, although I fear that it would not do so much... but nevertheless, I shall be watching this thread for a link to a PalPal account of some sort...

Again, my thoughts and prayers are with your wife...