No recommendations for another distro, but I share in your pain

I'm using (more like bashing around in) Redhat.
It is so darn hard to install anything under Linux, even RPMs don't work half of the time! And installing non-RPMs, you practically have to achieve godhood before you are able to figure that one out (sent in my app this morning

).
While I'm not giving up, as I don't feel like paying big $$$ for 2000 server, I am quite discouraged, and I haven't touched the Linux box for ages. I need to get back on the horse, though, and try again
As for getting rid of the linux bootloader, just install XP over itself, like an upgrade. That seems to do it (at least, it did for me).