I think I'm going to give up on the ISDN idea: at $40 per month to have the line, plus the ISDN ISP ($10 ?), for a mere 128k connection, I'd rather wait until I can afford the $60/m, 400 kbps satellite connection. Of course it'll be my expense, since the wife only needed it for VPN, and satellite doesn't work for VPN, because of the timing lag.
But thanks all the same for the tips: if my wife's still interested in having a VPN connection, I can hook her up. She's got a company laptop, so it'll have to be an external modem: easy stuff.
Right now I'm on dial up, and I'm getting ~24kbps... ZzZzZzZz